Reasons for Forming or not Forming a Relationship

Reasons for Forming or not Forming a Relationship

Forming a relationship with someone is influenced by various factors. Among the top three reasons for establishing a connection with another individual is shared similarity. When I find common ground in terms of values, beliefs, interests, and goals, it creates a sense of connection and understanding. (Adler et al., 2024). Disclosure is another significant factor in relationship formation. The power of sharing personal information opens up and reveals aspects of life, creating a sense of trust and vulnerability. It deepens my emotional connection and helps establish intimacy within the relationship I form with someone. Another crucial aspect of forming a relationship is proximity. Geographical closeness is important to me in forming relationships. I believe that spending quality time together and engaging in face-to-face interactions is vital for establishing a deep connection.

Conversely, there are also reasons why I may choose not to form a relationship with someone. One such reason is the pursuit of rewards. I value genuine connections based on mutual support and emotional connection rather than seeking personal gain or benefits. Secondly, while I appreciate competency in others, i prefer individuals who are not too perfect. Recognizing that nobody is flawless, i find it more relatable and genuine to form connections with people who strike a balance between competence and imperfections. This authenticity fosters a deeper connection and allows for growth and learning together. Lastly, physical appearance is not the sole basis for forming meaningful relationships. While I appreciate attractiveness, I prioritize connecting on a deeper level beyond external appearances. Inner qualities, values, and character hold more significance in your view. Building a relationship based on shared values and genuine emotional connection is paramount.

In conclusion, my reasons for forming relationships revolve around similarity, proximity, and disclosure. Shared interests and values, geographical closeness, and the ability to open up and reveal personal information play a vital role in establishing connections. Meanwhile, factors such as pursuing rewards, valuing competency over authenticity, and prioritizing appearance are reasons that might deter me from forming relationships.

References.

Adler, R. B., & Proctor, R. F. (2024). CHAPTER 10: Dynamics of Interpersonal Relationships. In Interplay: The process of interpersonal communication (pp. 610–673). essay, Oxford University Press.

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What are the top three reasons you have formed or would form a relationship with someone?

What about three reasons you would not form a relationship with someone?

Chapter 10, section 10.1 starts with the reasons why we form relationships. The subtitles in purple will be reasons you would form or not form a relationship with someone.

Example: Three reasons why I would start relationships with people are similarity, proximity, and disclosure. I like people similar to me because it means that we have things in common that we can do together. I want someone who lives close to me so that we can spend time together in person. Finally, I like to feel like part of someone’s life, and I believe that is done through disclosing information to each other.

Three reasons why I wouldn’t form relationships with someone are rewards, competency, and appearance. I don’t believe that relationship should be built on the what’s in it for me mentality. Whereas I like someone competent, I would not want someone too perfect. I feel like no one is perfect, so something is not quite right with them. I like someone appealing. However, I don’t think that relationships should be based solely on what someone looks like on the outside. There is so much more to someone than what they look like.

You can choose the same reasons for forming and not forming relationships. Maybe there are aspects of the same reason that would turn you off from having or not having a relationship with someone in differentiating ways.